Here’s help in
locating a soul mateThey are out there, and a woman
says she can help find them
Many go through life searching for a soul mate. After all, it is human nature to seek a mate. But, is there such a thing as a soul mate?
It's not easy to find a soul mate, but the search is definitely worthwhile, according to Cheryl Niggle, of Serendipity Books 'n Gifts. Niggle is teaching a class tomorrow night on how to attract your soul or playmate. Rather than haunting Internet chat rooms, going on blind dates or paying dating services for hook-up leads, it's better to learn methods to start attracting the right person to you, she said.
'Attract Your
Where: Serendipity Books 'n Gifts
Soul or Play Mate'
When: 7 to 8:30 p.m. tomorrow
Admission: $25
Call: 949-4711 or visit www.serendipitybookshawaii.com
"You don't have to settle," she said.
Dreaming up a soul or playmate helps individuals to determine what they are searching for, Niggle said. "For me it would be someone who adores my cats and is not allergic to them.
"If only I could get the characteristics of my cats in a man," she laughed.
Niggle does not believe that there is only one soul mate for each person. "Several people may fit the role. At particular times in life, one may be better than the other."
But to start, getting a mental picture of one's ideal is crucial, she said. "If we put things in our own ideal, things start to happen. We pick up things on a subtle level.
"It's not just about sex and intellect -- it's a whole blend of energy," she added.
If you already have someone, you can also learn how to increase the attraction for one another, she explained. "It's never too late -- the techniques can be used to maximize relationships."
For instance, if we pretend a not-so-desirable spouse is doing everything right, it can help send a positive message, according to Niggle. You need to imagine your mate the way you would like them to be. "Things may take a while to manifest, but over time it will take effect," she said. "If you are going to live with that person for the next 20 years or more, it is best if they are in a positive state."
Once you get through the tougher layers, the relationship gets stronger and less problematic. And, it frees you to let go of petty gripes.
"It's like peeling an onion. The grosser layers are on top," she said.
Another aspect of Niggle's class is self-reflection. It's hard to take a look at ourselves, she said, but it's important for people to look at their own actions to determine if they are desirable mates themselves.
"Many times, we attract our mirror," she said. Participants may find that they need to change themselves before they are able to attract a match.
Affirmations can guide the process. "I believe that what we say is reality," said Niggle, noting that it is not good to hold negative attitudes. "Rid yourself of negativity. Say, 'I am lovable, I am adorable.'"
Fear can also hold individuals back from finding love, she said. "They are afraid that they will put all this energy into it and it won't happen," she said. Others may fear being let down.
Finding a soul mate after taking the class is not guaranteed, but Niggle said: "Using these practices change the probability. It is there for every one of us. You need to be willing to do the work. When you turn the switch on, the lights go on. Once you see it work for yourself, you are a believer."
Niggle added, "Plan for your future but live in the present. Nobody will be the 100 percent ideal mate," she said. "There will always be ups and downs."
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